BARN

Bangor Area Recovery Network

142 Center Street, Brewer, Maine 04412
(207) 561-9444

Recovery Resources

 Addiction Recovery Resources & Quotes

“People you don’t like are usually a mirror to what you don’t like in yourself.”
“It’s more than putting down the drink. It’s putting in the work.”
“If alcohol is the problem, how can it be the solution?”
“Remain teachable.”
”How do you eat an elephant? Just a little bit every day.”

 A Checklist Of Symptoms Leading To Relapse

 1. EXHAUSTION:  Allowing yourself to become overly tired or in poor health. Some alcoholics are also prone to work addictions, perhaps in a hurry to make up for lost time. Good health and enough rest are important. If you feel well, you are more apt to think well. Feel poorly and your thinking is apt to deteriorate. Feel bad enough and you might begin thinking that a drink couldn’t make it any worse.

 2. DISHONESTY:  This begins with a pattern of unnecessary little lies and deceits with fellow workers, friends, and family. Then comes important lies to yourself. This is called rationalizing — making excuses for not doing what you don’t want to do, or for doing what you know you shouldn’t do.

 3. IMPATIENCE:  Things are not happening fast enough. Or, others are not doing what they should, or what you want them to do.

 4. ARGUMENTATIVENESS:  Arguing small and ridiculous points of view can indicate a need to always be right. “Why don’t you be reasonable and agree with me?” Looking for an excuse to drink?

 5. DEPRESSION  Unreasonable and unaccountable despair may occur in cycles and should be dealt with — talk about  it.

 6. FRUSTRATION: This may be at people or because things are not going your way.  Remember — everything is not going to be just the way you want it.

 7. SELF-PITY:  “Why do these things happen to me?”  “Why must I be an alcoholic?”  “Nobody appreciates all I’m doing (for them).”

 8. COCKINESS:  Got it made…I have arrived…no longer fear alcoholism…now I feel I can drink responsibly…Going into drinking situations to prove to others that you no longer have a problem. Do this often enough and it will wear down your defenses.

 9. COMPLACENCY:  “Drinking was the furthest thing from my mind.” Not drinking was no longer a conscious thought either.  It is dangerous to let up on disciplines  because everything is going well.  A little fear is a good thing. More relapses occur when things are going well  than when things are tough.

 10. EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS:  “I’ve changed –  why hasn’t everyone else?”  It’s a plus if they do, but it is not your problem if they do not. They may not trust you yet…they still may be looking for further  proof. You cannot expect others to change their life styles  just because you have.